Chapter 9 Communication and Self-concept

Self- fulfilling prophecies : expectations or judgments of ourselves that we bring about through our own actions

• Particular Others : the 1st perspectives that affect us are those of particular other.
• The Generalized other : 2nd perspective ( made up of the views of society and social communities to which we belong)
• Reflected apraisal : the process of seeing ourselves through the eyes of others

Communication with Family members

1. Direct Definition : parents / family members define us by the symbols they use to describe us.
2. Identity Scripts : shape our self concepts by communicating (rules for living and identity)
3. Attachment Styles :Patterns of parenting tht teach us how to view ourselves and personal relationships

• Secure Attachment Style (in loving ways ) [view of self : positive, others: positive]
• Fearful attachment style (negative, rejecting, abusive) [view of self : -ive, others: -ive]
• Dismmisive Attachment Style [view of self : positive, others: negative]
• Anxious/ambivalent attachment Style [view of self : negative, others: positive]

Communication with Peers

1. Reflected Appraisals
2. Social Comparison (our rating of ourselves relative to the others)
3. Self - Disclosure (open area, blind area, hidden area, unknown area)

Communication with Society

1. Race
2. Gender
3. Sexual Orientation
4. Socioeconomic Level

Guidelines

1. Reflect Critically on Social Perspectives
2. Commit to Personal Growth

• Set Realistic Goals
• Assess yourself fairly
• Self disclosure appropriately

3. Create a supportive context for the change you seek